I help you to:
Learn who you are,
love being yourself,
and choose yourself first,
unapologetically.
Define Her. Be Her. Protect Her.
Leslie Brooks CLC, LMBT, CTSS
Somatic/Trauma Coach, Licensed Massage Therapist, Community Trauma Support Specialist
Define the version of you you’re proud of, and feel it’s true in your body.
Build confidence to not abandon yourself and your needs, even if you’re anxious.
Know how you want to sound before you need to say it… then say it unapologetically.
Does this feel like you?
I Don't Even Know Who I Am or What I Need Anymore. Where Do I Even Start?
You can walk into a room and feel the mood in the room. You know more about what people want than even they do...
But when it comes time to make a decision or what you want in life.... YOU HAVE NO IDEA.
And NO, Sis… your self erasure is not something in your DNA, like your hair or eye color. It's trained into you. No one comes into the world hard wired for self abandonment. We use it as a strategy to feel safe in relationships.
And here's the thing: she's not gone, BUT you cannot find her in your over active mind. You find her in your body. In the things that create calm, pleasure, and peace. When we slow down long enough to feel the wisdom of the body, she will lead the way.
Thats what this work is. Reclaiming your wisdom and discernment by letting your body be the guide not your overthinking.
Everyone Calls You the Nice One, but You Might Be Bitter or Resentful if You Were Honest…
You're the one everyone calls. The Shock Absorber. The Stabilizer. The one who can handle it all — or so it looks like to everyone but you.
Underneath, you're mad. Resentful. Maybe even defeated. You've been so busy managing everyone else's life that somehow you forgot to live yours. You're running on empty, and no one even knows.
Here's the truth: managing your partner, your work, your parents, your kids — that was never about being nice. It was a strategy. You learned somewhere along the way that your needs were "too needy," so you disconnected from them entirely.
And every time you put someone else's experience above your own, you drift further from the woman you know is still in there — waiting to be acknowledged, waiting to be seen.
This work isn't about being less kind. It's about finally turning that kindness on yourself. You're not responsible for how anyone else experiences the world. You are responsible for how you experience yours.
You might not even know where to start. That's okay. This work begins with defining what self-kindness actually looks like — starting with knowing exactly how precious you are.
You Finally Told the Truth About How You Felt — Then Spent the Next Hour With Raging Anxiety.
You say what you actually feel. You're tired. You're mad. You want someone to care about your experience just as much as you care about theirs.
Instead of relief, you feel sick to your stomach — mentally justifying every reason you damn well deserve better. And then you apologize for "overreacting," when in reality you had every right to be pissed off, and you could list the reasons why.
Later, you wonder why speaking up always leaves you feeling guilty.
Here's what you learned a long time ago: speaking up only makes it worse. Somewhere along the way, speaking up got you rejection. Disconnection. For some of you, even abuse. So you learned not to go there.
This work is about preparing for the moments you need to speak up — and stabilizing yourself with the version of you that you'd actually be proud of being. We define you, and we stabilize you, by connecting you back to HER.
Hi, I'm Leslie Brooks.
If you're here, chances are you're the one everyone calls. The stabilizer. The shock absorber. The one who can handle it — or so it looks like from the outside.
You've probably done the therapy. You know your patterns. You can explain exactly why you freeze, why you say yes when your whole body is screaming no, why you apologize before anyone's even asked you to. And still — when it's time to actually act, none of that knowing helps. You manage everyone else's moods and lose track of your own in the process.
Here's the truth: that's not a personality flaw. It's not weakness. Somewhere along the way you learned your needs were needy, so you disconnected from them — and started managing everyone else's experience instead, because that felt safer than having your own.
And you cannot be assertive without knowing who you are first. That's not a chicken-and-egg problem. It's the whole reason insight alone hasn't changed anything for you yet. Behavior follows identity, not the other way around.
That's why we work through The GRIT Method — Ground, Reparent, Identify & Integrate, Tell the Truth. Not more overthinking. Not more explaining. Actual work with your nervous system, your body, and your choices, one moment at a time.
Here, you'll learn:
🔥 Define Her — who the woman you're proud of being actually looks like, underneath everyone else's version of you.
🌿 Be Her — strategies you can put into practice in the exact moments you typically self-abandon, so you can feel strong and grounded being her instead of just talking about her.
💪 Protect Her — where to set limits around the moments in life that make being her difficult, so she doesn't get abandoned the second things get uncomfortable.
By the end of this work, you'll speak up about your needs without the apology tour. You'll hold boundaries in the relationships that matter most. You'll stop replaying conversations for hours because you're no longer managing everyone else's feelings instead of your own.
You don't have to keep carrying everyone else's life at the cost of yours. If this is landing, let's talk. I'd love to help you build a life your body can finally say a full-body yes to.
Real stories of Transformation
Hear From Women Who Closed the Gap Between Knowing and Feeling.
Elaine, Retired Navy Nurse
I've always been disciplined. Routine and structure were how I stayed safe — that worked beautifully until something went off script. Then my body would sound every alarm at once. Crushing chest. Braced shoulders. This sense of urgency like everything was on fire, even when nothing actually was.
I didn't know that urgency was anxiety. I just thought that was how life felt.
Now I know the difference. I can tell what anxiety feels like in my body versus sadness versus actual danger — and that changes everything about how I respond. I have somatic practices and voice memos I can reach for the moment I feel my shoulders start creeping up toward my ears. I have something to come back to now, instead of just white-knuckling through it.
But the biggest change isn't the tools. It's that I no longer participate in other people's underfunctioning. I see it now, clearly, for what it is. And no is a word I can say without my chest caving in.
Terri, Retired/Mother
People have always told me I walk into a room and something in me commands it. I believe them — but I spent most of my life managing everyone else's emotional world instead of claiming that fire for myself.
The work with Leslie was never about finding my power. It was already there. It was about learning to stay in my body long enough to actually let it land.
Because joy was the hardest part for me. Not the boundaries. Not the hard conversations. Joy. Every time something good showed up, I'd immediately start overthinking it — picking it apart, waiting for it to be taken, bracing for the other shoe to drop. Feeling good was somehow more terrifying than the familiar weight of carrying everyone else.
We're still training me to live in my body, because that's where my intuition lives. That's where my fire actually lives. Now I can feel the exact moment I slip back into my head — and I know how to come back."
Laura
The hurricane, followed by the loss of a family member, triggered a downward spiral, and I felt incredibly scared. Leslie has been exactly the support I needed. Despite being in therapy for most of my life, I still carried a lot of unresolved trauma, and these new events only compounded it. I highly recommended Leslie if you’re struggling too.
