Define Her.
Be Her.
Protect Her.
Find who you are. Practice being her without apology. Protect her like you already know she's worth it.
Leslie Brooks CLC, LMBT, CTSS
Somatic/Trauma Coach, Licensed Massage Therapist, Community Trauma Support Specialist
Does this feel like you?
I Don't Even Know Who I Am Anymore. Where Do I Even Start?
You can walk into a room and feel the mood in the room. You know more about what people want than even they do...
But when it comes time to make a decision or what you want in life.... YOU HAVE NO IDEA.
And NO, Sis… your self erasure is not something in your DNA, like your hair or eye color. It's trained into you. No one comes into the world hard wired for self abandonment. We use it as a strategy to feel safe in relationships.
And here's the thing: she's not gone, BUT you cannot find her in your over active mind. You find her in your body. In the things that create calm, pleasure, and peace. When we slow down long enough to feel the wisdom of the body, she will lead the way.
Thats what this work is. Reclaiming your wisdom and discernment by letting your body be the guide not your overthinking.
Everyone Calls You the Nice One. You Just Call It Exhausting.
You are the one everyone calls. The Shock Absorber. The Stabilizer. The one who can handle it all, or so it appears to everyone else, but you.
Underneath, you're mad, resentful, and even defeated from managing everyone else's life that somehow you forgot to live yours. You're running on empty and no one even knows.
You managing your partner, work, parents, kids, isn't about being nice, it's a strategy you created to stay connected to loved ones. You learned somewhere along the way, your needs were needy and so you disconnected yourself from them.
Every time you put someone else's experience above your own, it leaves you more disconnected from the woman you know is in there, waiting to be acknowledged and seen.
This work isn't about being less kind to others, it's to turn that kindness on to yourself. You are not responsible for other people's experience in the world, but you are responsible for your own. But you might not even know where to begin how to treat yourself with that kindness. This work is about how to define self kindness by first knowing how precious you are.
You Finally Said What You Felt -Then Spent the Next Hour Apologizing for It.
You say what you actually feel. You're tired. You're mad. You want people to care about your experience just as much as you care about theirs.
Instead of relief, you feel sick to your stomach, in your head mentally justifying all the reasons you damn well deserve better. Only to later apologize for "over reacting" when in reality, you have a right to be pissed off and you can even list the reasons why.
You later wonder why you always feel so guilty speaking up.
Somewhere you learned long ago: SPEAKING UP ONLY MAKES IT WORSE. What came when you spoke up in the past, was rejection, disconnection, or even for some, abuse. Some where along the way you learned not to go there.
This work is about preparing for the moments you need to speak up for yourself and stabilizing yourself with the version of yourself you would be proud of being and making yourself proud. We define you and stabilize by connecting with HER.
Hi, I'm Leslie Brooks.
If you're here, chances are you're the one everyone calls. The stabilizer. The shock absorber. The one who can handle it — or so it looks like from the outside.
You've probably done the therapy. You know your patterns. You can explain exactly why you freeze, why you say yes when your whole body is screaming no, why you apologize before anyone's even asked you to. And still — when it's time to actually act, none of that knowing helps. You manage everyone else's moods and lose track of your own in the process.
Here's the truth: that's not a personality flaw. It's not weakness. Somewhere along the way you learned your needs were needy, so you disconnected from them — and started managing everyone else's experience instead, because that felt safer than having your own.
And you cannot be assertive without knowing who you are first. That's not a chicken-and-egg problem. It's the whole reason insight alone hasn't changed anything for you yet. Behavior follows identity, not the other way around.
That's why we work through The GRIT Method — Ground, Reparent, Identify & Integrate, Tell the Truth. Not more overthinking. Not more explaining. Actual work with your nervous system, your body, and your choices, one moment at a time.
Here, you'll learn:
🔥 Define Her — who the woman you're proud of being actually looks like, underneath everyone else's version of you.
🌿 Be Her — strategies you can put into practice in the exact moments you typically self-abandon, so you can feel strong and grounded being her instead of just talking about her.
💪 Protect Her — where to set limits around the moments in life that make being her difficult, so she doesn't get abandoned the second things get uncomfortable.
By the end of this work, you'll speak up about your needs without the apology tour. You'll hold boundaries in the relationships that matter most. You'll stop replaying conversations for hours because you're no longer managing everyone else's feelings instead of your own.
You don't have to keep carrying everyone else's life at the cost of yours. If this is landing, let's talk. I'd love to help you build a life your body can finally say a full-body yes to.
Real stories of Transformation
Hear From Women Who Closed the Gap Between Knowing and Feeling.
Elaine, Retired Navy Nurse
I've always been disciplined. Routine and structure were how I stayed safe — that worked beautifully until something went off script. Then my body would sound every alarm at once. Crushing chest. Braced shoulders. This sense of urgency like everything was on fire, even when nothing actually was.
I didn't know that urgency was anxiety. I just thought that was how life felt.
Now I know the difference. I can tell what anxiety feels like in my body versus sadness versus actual danger — and that changes everything about how I respond. I have somatic practices and voice memos I can reach for the moment I feel my shoulders start creeping up toward my ears. I have something to come back to now, instead of just white-knuckling through it.
But the biggest change isn't the tools. It's that I no longer participate in other people's underfunctioning. I see it now, clearly, for what it is. And no is a word I can say without my chest caving in.
Terri, Retired/Mother
People have always told me I walk into a room and something in me commands it. I believe them — but I spent most of my life managing everyone else's emotional world instead of claiming that fire for myself.
The work with Leslie was never about finding my power. It was already there. It was about learning to stay in my body long enough to actually let it land.
Because joy was the hardest part for me. Not the boundaries. Not the hard conversations. Joy. Every time something good showed up, I'd immediately start overthinking it — picking it apart, waiting for it to be taken, bracing for the other shoe to drop. Feeling good was somehow more terrifying than the familiar weight of carrying everyone else.
We're still training me to live in my body, because that's where my intuition lives. That's where my fire actually lives. Now I can feel the exact moment I slip back into my head — and I know how to come back."
Laura
The hurricane, followed by the loss of a family member, triggered a downward spiral, and I felt incredibly scared. Leslie has been exactly the support I needed. Despite being in therapy for most of my life, I still carried a lot of unresolved trauma, and these new events only compounded it. I highly recommended Leslie if you’re struggling too.
